B.D.S.M– bondage and discipline, sadism and masochism -shortened to BDSM, is an erotic preference and a form of personal relationship involving the consensual use of restraint, intense sensory stimulation, and fantasy power role play.
Relationship whether within a union of a couple or just PLAY PARTNERS within a BDSM context are characterized by the participants usually taking on a role of either submissive or Dominant-unequal roles, consent of both the partners is essential.
Typically participants exercise control over others – are known as tops or dominants.
Participants who are recipients of being dominated or ‘forced’ into submission,and are controlled by their partners are typically known as bottoms or submissive s. Individuals who alternate between top/dominant and bottom/submissive roles are known as switches.
Most people think that this Lifestyle is out of their comfort zone and that it is not for them. However, some couples without knowing it practice light Bdsm in forms.
If you have ever thought it would be sexy to blind fold your partner, or even tie their hands to the bed while teasing them or doing things to them, then you are essentially participating in this lifestyle.
Some people naturally feel they need to be the Alpha in the relationship and are only comfortable in the dominant role.
Once again, without knowing it people can switch during sex into a more submissive/passive mode.
A person in a relationship who usually makes most of the decisions and rules in the partnership may find themselves aroused when their partner gets aggressive in the bedroom. without wanting to say something, can desire their partner get a little more aggressive with them.
When you find yourself in life always in charge, always having to make decisions with a lot of pressure constantly on you, the feeling of ‘giving in and giving yourself’ to someone in this venue can be very erotic and intoxicating.
Quite often people in power choose to find a Mistress or Master to dominate them and force them to submit- thus giving up the responsibility of being in control.
Other people who normally are passive and easy going might find themselves super charged in the bedroom and very aggressive and in control.
Essentially in life we at different moments ‘switch’ from the power to the passive. Everything in life is balance. If we did not sometimes switch then we could easily ‘burn out’.
SOME TYPES OF PLAY…..
CBT (Cock and Ball Torture)
Golden showers (urinating)
Strap on play
Any of these can be done from very gentle and playful to more aggressive depending on the couples desires.
The word BONDAGE can give us the impression that it is a little rough, however, even silk ribbons tying someones hands and feet is bondage/restraint.
WHIPPING/FLOGGING- also gives the impression that it is a little harsh but whips and flogs are made of anything ranging from fur, rubber, deerskin, suede, horse-hair to leather and more…
The couple will decide the intensity of the flogging/whipping according to their pain threshold.
ROLE-PLAY- one of the most harmless parts of this lifestyle, and people indulge in role playing all the time without thinking of it as part of the BDSM lifestyle.
EXAMPLES OF ROLE-PLAY-
Hospital fantasies – involving doctors, nurses and patients.
Age-play – is a form of roleplaying in which an individual acts and/or treats another as if they were a different age. The practice can be regressive, in which the goal is to re-experience childhood, or sexual, recreating a sexual relationship with people of the pretend and/or true ages. Generally this can involve someone pretending to be younger than they actually are, but more rarely can involve assuming an older role.
Master-slave – where a player is treated as the property of the master/mistress.
TTorturer/Captive prisoner – where one player is a captor who abuses the other.
Kidnapped fantasy – The submissive player is bound (rope, duct tape, bondage tape, handcuffs, etc.) and gagged (duct tape gag, bondage tape gag, cleave gag, ball gag, etc.) and teased before the sexual act.
Authority figure/Misbehaving Adult – where a player takes on the role of an authority figure and blackmails or humiliates his or her partner into sexual activity.
Gender-play – where one or more players take on roles of the opposite sex.
Goddess worship – where a woman is seen as a pagan deity.
Uniform fetish – one participant dresses in uniform (for instance as a student, cheerleader, French maid, etc.), while the dominant participant plays an authority figure (a parent, teacher, coach, police officer, etc.).
Rape fantasy or a ravishment where one player feigns being coerced into an unwelcome sex act.
Prison fetish – Situational play set in a prison environment. While it can include authority play, it does not limit itself to the Master/slave paradigm; but expands the opportunities to include non-authority play between equals (such as cell mate love affairs). Prison role playing is able to combine equality and authority play depending upon the situation and the specific roles of individual players. A prison fetish play session includes all sexual orientations and limits itself only by the environment / situations agreed to by the participates. Given real life prisons are same-sex communities, this fetish does lend itself to male on male or female on female activities and settings. Opposite gender play is also possible between inmates and guards or when the setting includes a co-ed facility / institution. Prison play is also an expansion of the uniform fetish by use of inmate, guard, and staff uniforms.
there are many different types of roles you can take on. Perhaps you just like your partner (if you are the Man) to dress up like a school girl, french maid, secretary, nurse, cook, etc.
In these scenario’s the ‘sub’ does not perform their tasks correctly and have to be punished for not doing things the way they should.
IMAGINE THIS ROLE PLAYING FANTASY….
I’m dressed in my sexy little French maid outfit and you have hired me to clean your house.
You’ve been working hard all day, and then fought your way home through awful traffic. You are agitated and can’t wait to get back to your beautiful clean home…
You enter the house and hear the T.V on.. That’s strange because you didn’t leave it on.
You find your maid, who should be cleaning with her feet up watching talk shows.
Infuriated you march over to the TV and turn it off, standing in front of her asking her what she thinks she is doing.
You look around the house and see nothing has been done, she has just fucked off all day watching tv and eating candy.
You demand she stands to her feet.
First of all you exam her to see if she is dressed according to how you told her she must when you hired her.
She is to wear a french maid outfit that you provided. Short ruffle skirt, low cut top, white apron, fishnet stockings, garter belt, crotchless panties, white gloves, and the little cute maid hat with hair in an up do.
Her appearance does not look up to standard and you march her to the bedroom to get her outfit sorted out.
You place the outfit on the bed and tell her to get naked, which she does. Now as she stands naked in front of you, you inspect her to see if she is getting fat from sitting on her ass, watching tv and eating candy.
You make her turn around slowly, your hands reaching out to squeeze and touch her ass, tits and belly. Fortunately she has maintained her sexy figure and you approve. You ask her to start to put on her outfit starting with the garter belt and stockings. Once she has the stockings on she slips on the stiletto heels you make her wear.
You kneel in front of her and run your hands up her legs to check the stockings are on correctly, and then you make her turn her ass towards you and straighten her garter belt and stockings so the stocking top sits just below her ass cheeks.
While you are there, you demand she spreads her Ass cheeks to show you if her asshole and pussy-hole are clean.
You get very close to smell and touch her holes. They are slightly damp, perhaps she was playing with herself earlier you ask.
You know tell her to put on the crotchless panties and the rest of the outfit.
She is fully dressed and in accordance with your standards.
You point out that the floor has some kind of stains on it from spilled coffee or food and tell her to get a wash rag and get down on the floor and clean it up.
She comes back with the rag and gets down on her hands and knees and starts to wash the floor. her skirt is very short, and as she scrubs her ass giggles a little and her pussy lips are exposed through the opening of the panties.
You reach down, tell her NOT to spot what she is doing and place a finger in her cunt.
You continue to finger fuck her cunt hole, making sure it gets nice and wet while she continues to clean the floor.
Her pussy is very juicy and wet and its making your cock hard.
you tell her to turn around and help you out of your clothes, which she does.
Now you are naked in front of her and explain how the drive made you sweaty and she should go get a clean washcloth to clean you down.
She gently washes down your body with the cloth, and once you are clean you tell her to clean your feet with her tongue.
She looks shocked but you firmly make the demand again.
She gets down to the floor, ass in the air and starts licking your feet. You grab the feather duster that is on the bed, reach over her and pull her panties down revealing her ass and pussy.
There is a closet mirror behind her and you have full view of everything.
You rub the feather duster up and down her ass and pussy, making her pussy even more wet.
Your cock is getting stiffer and stiffer…
while she is down there, licking and wiggling her tits fall out of the low cut top, revealing her hard nipples. You tell her to lie on her back with her tits pulled out of the outfit and play with her pussy.
She fingers her cunt with one hand and the other rubs her nipple. You stroke your hard cock while watching her.
It’s time the Maid cleaned more than the floor… Your cock needs polishing for sure!
She opens her mouth and you straddle her face, pushing your cock in between her wet lips, telling her not to stop rubbing her pussy.
You make her lick your cock and balls, and then you place your ass over her face telling her she must clean your asshole.
She is in no position to refuse and complies.
Her tongue eagerly licks your asshole while you stroke your cock.
After a while, you get off her and tell her to bend over the bed. her skirt is pulled up over her ass and her panties pulled down just below her ass.
You tell her to spread her ass cheeks which she does. Her pussy is so pink and wet, and her asshole so tight…
You need to taste them both, you place your tongue up her twat and then into her asshole, licking it and tongue fucking it, getting it soaking wet.. Next you slip your cock into her pussy hole, and your thumb into her wet, tight asshole.
You tell her she isn’t allowed to make any sound no matter what you do to her.
You cock is so swollen and hard while it sinks deep into her wet pussy hole, her asshole is so inviting and tight.
Once you have stretched out her ass with your thumb, you then slowly slip your dick inside her ass.
She makes no sound, you slowly sink it in deeper and deeper. You tell her to reach under and rub her clit and pussy hole.
The more she rubs her clit and pussy, the more relaxed her ass hole gets, allowing you to go balls deep.
You squeeze and spread her ass while fucking up hard. Her body tightens up, and then you can feel her throbbing pussy through her ass.
She came so hard…. And in turn that makes you cum, in her ass….
You pull your cock out of her ass, still covered in cum and tell her she needs to clean off your cock.
After you are clean, its time she really gets that cleaning done, while you relax after a hard days work …..
Role Play is a great way to keep things fun in the bedroom.
BDSM is practiced in all social strata and is common in both heterosexual and homosexual men and women in varied occurrences and intensities
There are only a few studies researching the psychological aspects of BDSM using modern scientific standards.
“BDSM is simply a sexual interest attractive to a minority, not a pathological symptom of past abuse or difficulty with normal sex.
The KARMA SUTRA of India describes four different kinds of hitting during lovemaking, the allowed regions of the human body to target and different kinds of joyful “cries of pain” practiced by bottoms.
Whatever degree you decide to PLAY, always play with caution and play safe.
have fun 🙂
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