Body Language can speak louder than words.
If you turn the sound off and watch someone on TV, you get a whole different view of the person than if you hear them speak. Humans are a lot more intuitive than they wish to acknowledge.
We mostly want to ignore the signs that someone isn’t into us because of several reasons.
Maybe we think we can “Break down their Walls”, so we forge on even when the body language signs clearly scream STOP. We think we can win them over with our charm and wit or you simply are “tuned out’ and you cannot or do not wish to interpret their obvious body language signals.
In some cases it is true that people can be putting out a different message than what is really going on. Perhaps they are having a bad day, or they are upset about something and they are giving out signals that they aren’t interested. However, if you get the same signals over and over from a person on different occasions, then it may be time to quit chasing. Sometimes, just because of Reverse Psychology acting without us even trying, you may get the same person to now show interest in you. We are a complex, yet simple creature.
We naturally, instinctively know more than we credit ourselves for. Our gut feelings should not always be ignored but at least taking a look at.
If you really have questions as to whether a person is interested in you or not, then read their BODY LANGUAGE when they are around you.
Body Language happens without us putting thought into it. Our bodies react to a situation without us knowing it. So you can read someones thoughts by reading their body…
Have you heard of the line “Learn to be Still” also a Song by The Eagles. It pays to PAY ATTENTION and learn to be still. Listen, Look and you will find your answers.
BODY LANGUAGE SIGNS THAT SHE IS INTO YOU….
*Turning her body towards you.
*Leaning in to talk or whispering
*Frequent eye contact.
*Laughing and smiling.
*She touches / strokes you.
*Grooming herself (touching hair,etc)
*She faces her legs, feet or body in your direction.
*She blushes around you
*She tilts her head when you speak
*She copies your body language.
*The Eyes don’t lie. If she’s into you, her eyes will follow you around the room
* Eyes dilate ( not because of alcohol or drugs)
OTHER SIGNS THAT SHE IS INTO YOU.
*Concern about your Well Being
*She spends more time looking and listening to you then looking at her phone
*If you ask to call her or see her again she answers Yes and not ‘maybe’ or ‘we will see’.
*She ignores her Cell phone
*She doesn’t visit the rest room every two minutes or spend excessive time in there rather than sitting with you.
*She isn’t constantly checking the time
*She loses track of time
SIGNS SHE IS ‘NOT’ INTO YOU…
1. She crosses her arms
Did she assume the angry librarian stance? “When a woman on a date places her hands in front of her body — especially if they are crossed — she is closing herself off from the man. If you get this red flag, you don’t stand a chance… and she wants you to know it. “Men are not nearly as perceptive as women, so even if she’s not consciously aware of it, a woman knows her body language needs to be very loud,”. “In this instance, that body language reads loud and clear.”
2. She places her bag between you two
“When I ask male friends how a blind date went, step-by-step, and they say‘she put her bag on the table,’ I always know that’s a bad sign,” Hartley says. If your date places her purse — a real and physical barrier — between the two of you, she’s showing she wants to create distance, he says. Not a good sign.
3. She speaks faster than an auctioneer
So she seems to love talking to you? Before you start celebrating, note the speed of her small talk. “Romantic conversation does not occur at the same speed as business conversation,” . “Conversation between two people who are attracted typically slows to about three-quarter speed and softens in tone. In fact, most emotional conversation — with the exception of when it is very hostile — is at a slowed cadence.” That said, she may be nervous early in your first date, and her nerves can cause her to spit her sentences out in rapid-fire succession. But if by the end of the evening she’s still going at a rapid rate, consider it a clue that she just wants to be friends at best.
4. She offers you a chin-up smile
Though it’s tempting to interpret any old smile as a sign of interest, all smiles are not created equal. Smiles can say a lot: “I’m polite,” “I’m crazy about you,” and, believe it or not, “I can’t stand you.” The secret to decoding what her smile really means? It’s all in the chin placement. A woman who gives you a relaxed, chin-down “soft smile” is smitten and wants you to dig her back, Hartley explains. A full-on toothpaste grin or stiff and polite smile — both of which generally involve the chin raised up — mean either, “I like you as a friend” or “I wanna get out of here!”
5. She strokes her neck
If your date’s telling you she agrees that you should get together again, that’s a good sign, right? Maybe. “Her body language may be the key to the real truth,” he says. “If a woman is gently stroking her neck when telling you this, it may be a sign that she’s interested, but it is also known to be a sign of lying.” To figure out which message she’s sending, consider the aforementioned “she’s not into you” signals. If she’s also giving you the raised-chin smile and speaking to you over a giant purse, you may want to move on to your next prospect.
6. Constantly checking the time or her phone
If your date is constantly checking the time, looking at her watch or phone then she is eager to leave you or avoid actually having to connect with you.
AND FOR THE LADIES…
IS HE INTO YOU OR NOT?
Signs that say he IS into you…
* He closes the distance (he wants to be close to you)
*He speaks softly (speaking softly sends soothing messages to the brain, creating an intimate connection).
*He rounds his posture (Hyper-masculine body language is standing tall, if a guy is interested in you he will ‘soften’ his body language.
*He talks slowly
*He can’t take his eyes off you (in a good way).. Think “WAYNES WORLD”- Dream Weaver..
*He ignores his Cell phone
*He pays more attention to you than checking his text messages
*He genuinely listens to you when you speak and doesn’t constantly correct you.
*He puts his jacket around you if it is chilly, even if he is freezing.
*He has genuine concern over your well being
And five signs your date IS NOT into you:
1. He’s four feet away- Sting Sang..“Don’t Stand So Close to Me”, if your date is doing the same, he’s not feeling you romantically,
2. He stands at an oblique angle facing you
“Most men do not realize that when talking to another man, we stand at oblique angles, with one shoulder facing the others face, yet when we talk to women — especially ones we’re interested in romantically — we stand face-to-face with them,” . If your guy’s shoulder is pointing in the direction of your face during conversation, he’s subconsciously showing disinterest or is trying to turn you off.
3. He sounds like that guy in accounting
If he pace is quick and the level of his voice is rather strong — “he’s probably just trying to keep it on a friendship level,”
4. He stares at your mouth
When a guy focuses on your lips, what he’s really trying to do is avoid eye contact most of the time (unless he is a complete perv and is just thinking about what he wants to stick in their). Avoiding eye contact means he is either not into you, he is trying to break the intimacy or he is lying.
5. He’s out of sync with your body language
When a guy is romantically interested in you, he will mimic your body language, so if he doesn’t copy you gesture for gesture, odds are he isn’t smitten.
6. He is distracted. He keeps checking his phone or watching the TV while you are talking.
7. He isn’t giving asking you for another date right away. He isn’t making a clear schedule of when he wants to see you again, he is being very vague or tells you his schedule is so busy and he will let you know if some time frees up.
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